How do you show up for yourself mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally? We are taught to show up for everyone else but why not for ourselves?
When I showed up for everyone else, at the end of the day I wound up eating to show up for myself. I would literally think “it’s my turn. I need a break and I need to relax.” I would do this by watching TV and snacking. subconsciously it felt good. I felt I was full and filling my batteries. In reality my battery was completely empty and physically it increased my blood pressure, my weight and put me into early menopause, and ultimately added to my overall exhaustion.
Mentally I was completely spent. I was cranky, irritable, and was reactionary to the slightest things.
Emotionally I was angry, sad, and somewhat lonely, even though I had a great life, a good career, a supportive husband, and a beautiful daughter.
Spiritually I had just stopped. I didn’t practice any type of prayer or meditation, nor did I think of it as something that would fulfill me.
I was a hot mess! And I don’t mean that in a good way.
So what does showing up for yourself mean? Have you ever heard the words in your head I’m being ‘selfish” or I “shouldn’t” do that because I’m being selfish? I heard that and a lot of other negatives in my head and so I would show up at the pantry and eat my way through the evening. This is just one way that I didn’t know I was showing up for myself in a negative way.
There are many other ways that we either don’t show up for ourselves at all, or show up negatively with ourselves but there is fab news! You can discover them for yourself relatively quickly, so take heart! There are so many easy things that you can do to show up for yourself to go from exhaustion, burn out, stressed out to calm & relaxed within, energetic and sure of your presence.
Exercise: Here are some examples, then grab your journal and jot down a bullet list (so it’s quick and easy) of how you show up for yourself.
I breathe
I pee when I have to pee
I notice when I am hungry and when I am full
I take time for my hobbies
I take time for myeslf
I take time for my girlfriends
These are just a few examples of how I show up for myself. I would love to hear your ways (so I can copy if I need to-LOL) and I would love to have you join me in the discussion and on the journey on my FB page FAB Ever After where we support, encourage and grow together on this journey called life!
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